27 February, 2018

The Maturing of Relationships

By |2018-01-08T14:57:06-05:00February 27th, 2018|blog, Relationships|Comments Off on The Maturing of Relationships

“Why is it that we sometimes can't feel close to someone we've lived with for a long period of time?” This was the heartfelt question from a young woman and mother who was struggling in a relationship with her partner. The relationship had been going sideways for years, but she was reluctant to break up [...]

8 January, 2018

When the Bloom is Off the Rose

By |2018-01-08T14:51:15-05:00January 8th, 2018|blog, Relationships|Comments Off on When the Bloom is Off the Rose

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, my mother used to tell me, as she watched me with some perplexity while I painstakingly painted Twiggy eyelashes around my eyes. “Oh mom,” I would sigh in my most grown-up voice at the venerable age of 16. What did she know about beauty? She who never [...]

16 December, 2015

Holiday Blues: Tips for Dealing with Depression

By |2017-01-17T13:51:29-05:00December 16th, 2015|Anxiety and Depression, blog, Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on Holiday Blues: Tips for Dealing with Depression

      Somewhere along the way, we westerners have wholeheartedly embraced the notion that the holidays are supposed to be about having wonderful, cozy, nurturing and loving times with our families. Holding onto that thought can be depressing. As if all the tension, stress and dysfunctionality that we may have experienced with various members [...]

22 October, 2015

What is Self Awareness?

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00October 22nd, 2015|Self Awareness|Comments Off on What is Self Awareness?

Self-awareness is the bedrock of all therapy. The degree to which you are self aware will shape everything in your life – your relationships, how you handle challenges and obstacles, how you deal with failure, and whether or not you can rise from the ashes and recreate your life anew. A lack of self-awareness, on [...]

20 September, 2015

Understanding Relationships

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00September 20th, 2015|Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on Understanding Relationships

  Animals can teach us a lot about relationships. They just seem to handle them so naturally and gracefully, with a minimum of fuss. Not so for we humans. All of life involves relationships of various sorts and they are central to our human lives. They are the alchemical vessels we are cooked in, changed [...]

7 September, 2015

Anxiety and Depression: Perspectives on Suffering

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00September 7th, 2015|Anxiety and Depression|Comments Off on Anxiety and Depression: Perspectives on Suffering

 Has anxiety always been so pervasive a problem as it is today in modern cultures? Are we just naming a problem which has in fact always crippled mankind? Or, is it in fact a byproduct of the fast changing, technology driven times in which we find ourselves? While in the past, the farmer, the warrior [...]

31 August, 2015

What Stands in the Way of Your Happiness?

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00August 31st, 2015|Myth and Meaning|Comments Off on What Stands in the Way of Your Happiness?

There is only one reason anyone initially goes into therapy – they sense that something is amiss in their lives. They feel that they are not living up to their potential or perhaps there is a particular relationship or issue that seems to be standing in the way of their happiness or well-being. Often clients [...]

20 August, 2015

Bless Them and Let Them Go: The Ubiquity of Loss

By |2015-08-31T20:19:28-04:00August 20th, 2015|Grief and Loss|Comments Off on Bless Them and Let Them Go: The Ubiquity of Loss

I have been reflecting on life and death these past weeks, which brought me to thinking about those mini births and deaths that make up part and parcel of our daily lives. The birth of something new is usually a joyous, affirming experience, but we tend to forget about the little deaths that preceded it [...]

27 July, 2015

Why Therapy: Laundry and Take-Out

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00July 27th, 2015|Self Awareness|3 Comments

Going into therapy, finding the right therapist - it's a risk. Why would anyone want to bare their soul to a stranger - does the thought make you feel hugely vulnerable, awkward? Isn't it extremely embarrassing, uncomfortable? Yes it can be, but the more dominant feeling of clients who walk over that bridge is one [...]

18 May, 2015

On Dealing With Anxiety: A Conversation With a Young Man

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00May 18th, 2015|Anxiety and Depression|Comments Off on On Dealing With Anxiety: A Conversation With a Young Man

Recently I had a conversation over the internet with a young man who has been dealing with anxiety. This seems to be such a common problem, especially with young people who have so much uncertainty about the meaning of life, themselves, and their future.  As I reread the text of our conversation, it occurred to [...]