Ultimately, however, we all have to take responsibility for what we bring to the relationships we are in. Are we fragmented, angry, miserable? Do we blame others for our unhappiness, for our suffering? Do we hope magically that the other person will cure us, heal us of all our wounds? Do we blame them when they fail to do so? We bring all of our fragmented, wounded selves into our relationships and then expect the relationship to be the panacea, the magical potion that will cure all. Instead, what usually happens when the honeymoon is over, we meet the other in all of his or her raw woundedness. Marion Woodman once said, ‘this is when you get to see if you can learn to love the other.’ Self-knowledge must be the keystone for all our relationships; otherwise we are stumbling down dark alleys, bumping into obstacle after obstacle, cursing others and our fate without realizing we are the only ones who can live and change our lives; we are the only ones who can do the inner work that needs to be done.