27 February, 2018

The Maturing of Relationships

By |2018-01-08T14:57:06-05:00February 27th, 2018|blog, Relationships|Comments Off on The Maturing of Relationships

“Why is it that we sometimes can't feel close to someone we've lived with for a long period of time?” This was the heartfelt question from a young woman and mother who was struggling in a relationship with her partner. The relationship had been going sideways for years, but she was reluctant to break up [...]

8 January, 2018

When the Bloom is Off the Rose

By |2018-01-08T14:51:15-05:00January 8th, 2018|blog, Relationships|Comments Off on When the Bloom is Off the Rose

“Beauty is in the eye of the beholder”, my mother used to tell me, as she watched me with some perplexity while I painstakingly painted Twiggy eyelashes around my eyes. “Oh mom,” I would sigh in my most grown-up voice at the venerable age of 16. What did she know about beauty? She who never [...]

16 December, 2015

Holiday Blues: Tips for Dealing with Depression

By |2017-01-17T13:51:29-05:00December 16th, 2015|Anxiety and Depression, blog, Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on Holiday Blues: Tips for Dealing with Depression

      Somewhere along the way, we westerners have wholeheartedly embraced the notion that the holidays are supposed to be about having wonderful, cozy, nurturing and loving times with our families. Holding onto that thought can be depressing. As if all the tension, stress and dysfunctionality that we may have experienced with various members [...]

20 September, 2015

Understanding Relationships

By |2017-01-17T13:51:30-05:00September 20th, 2015|Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on Understanding Relationships

  Animals can teach us a lot about relationships. They just seem to handle them so naturally and gracefully, with a minimum of fuss. Not so for we humans. All of life involves relationships of various sorts and they are central to our human lives. They are the alchemical vessels we are cooked in, changed [...]

18 May, 2014

A Terrible Love of War: a book review

By |2017-01-17T13:51:31-05:00May 18th, 2014|Myth and Meaning, Relationships, Self Awareness|39 Comments

James Hillman’s extraordinary book, A Terrible Love of War, examines the phenomena of war in our world in an effort to understand its importance, its inevitability, its impact and its meaning. It is divided into four chapters: War is Normal, War is Inhuman, War is Sublime, and Religion is War. While the first chapter lays [...]

16 March, 2014

Healing the Mother Complex or Learning the Power of No

By |2017-01-17T13:51:32-05:00March 16th, 2014|Myth and Meaning, Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on Healing the Mother Complex or Learning the Power of No

Beware. Many therapists, social workers, ‘do-gooders’ and ‘good mothers or fathers’ have a raging mother complex lying underneath the calm, kind exterior, and it’s a killer. This complex knows no gender boundaries and can be equally present in both  men and women. In my blog on The Inner Community, I talked about complexes in general, [...]

9 July, 2013

How do I forgive?

By |2017-01-17T13:51:32-05:00July 9th, 2013|Grief and Loss, Relationships|10 Comments

This was a question that again came into focus as I talked with an old client I hadn’t seen in many years. Deep woundings of the psyche can fester for years, and probably even lifetimes. They are like the deeply entrenched psychic tattoos that simply don’t go away. And so how can we heal these [...]

15 May, 2013

The Other

By |2017-01-17T13:51:32-05:00May 15th, 2013|Relationships, Self Awareness|Comments Off on The Other

    Don’t you think it is interesting that with humans most of our perceived problems are with the other? We don’t own it as a problem with ourselves, or the way we naturally are, but, rather, the problem is located elsewhere. These problems fall into several categories: Present, but Deficient The one we are [...]