Waiting For Grace

/, Self Awareness/Waiting For Grace

grief and loss

In my last blog entry I talked about the importance of asking for help from a higher power. In Jungian parlance, this is often referred to as the Self, the divine presence within all of us. Others imagine or conceptualize God in their own way. I think the key thing is having that connection open and vibrant in your life. Like other forms of communication, the most important part is being deeply receptive.

Deep listening to another means that we have to put our own agenda aside. So often when we pretend that we are listening to the other, we are just preparing what we are going to say next. We are more interested in putting our case forward, proving our argument, showing that we are right, the best, the smartest etc. It requires a sincere interest, selflessness and compassionate attention to be a good listener. Have you ever wondered why so many ‘talk therapies’ abound, and why people pay so much for therapy? I suspect that a lot of therapists would go out of business if more people were interested in really listening to each other. The truth is, itt seems like a great luxury to be really heard by another human being.

We have so much static in our own minds we don’t have the psychic space to let in another person with his or her concerns. Never mind listening to the Self and what it may be trying to communicate to you. We have to be able to clear the mind of its busyness and noise in order to deeply listen for guidance.

It always amazes me that when you are struggling and puzzling over something and are in a state of confusion and uncertainty, it feels like it will never end. Clarity will never come. It feels like the unsolvable Gordian knot. Then one day, you simply know what you must do, and all hesitation and angst is gone. We can often only really recognize this transition in retrospect. Think back to situations where you agonized over a decision or some action you were contemplating. Did the clouds simply lift one day and your path became clear? Most of us can remember some time when that happened and it was a good thing to have waited. That was grace.

And most of us can think of times when we didn’t wait for that clarity, but took some action out of a state of confusion or emotional drama. Those were the times when we probably created more unpleasant karma for ourselves. The proverbial snowball effect. The bad situation just got worse, and then we had THAT to unravel.

Often when we are in the middle of a dilemma, it feels unbearable to not take action. The ego wants results! It is impatient and needs to be in control. It wants to manage the outcome. But the truth is that if you can hold the tension of the opposites and not take action, and pray and ask for guidance, and deeply listen for that guidance, you might be very surprised at the outcome. If the Self is not asked for help, we are often left to bumble along and make your mistakes and experience the rough and tumble we create for ourselves in our everyday life.

It is only when we turn to face the Self, and humbly ask for guidance that you might actually get the help you need. Life can turn itself around in the most surprising and unforeseen ways – in ways that we could never have orchestrated or managed on our own. But we have to let go of what we think that outcome should look like. You can’t say to God, please solve my problem, and please get rid of that jerk for me, and get me a new car while you are at it.

But you can ask for guidance. Sometimes help comes in the most unexpected ways. That is grace. Have faith and trust your life, and trust your inner truth. There is no emotional charge or drama when that realization emerges out of your deep inner core. There is simply a quiet knowing and acceptance of what is.

Rumi, a 13th century poet/mystic, who happens to be one of the most popular poets in North America, addressed all of his poetry to the One, whom he sometimes called the Friend, and sometimes the Beloved.

Coleman Barks, who is renowned as an authority on Rumi and a poet in his own right, has an extraordinary voice and feeling for Rumi’s poetry. Listen to him here. It is a gift from the One.

By |2017-01-17T13:51:35+00:00March 30th, 2012|Carl Jung, Self Awareness|15 Comments

About the Author:


  1. […] Waiting For Grace:(margaretmikkelborg.com) Related posts: […]

  2. buy air max 1 June 1, 2014 at 10:30 am

    Hi! I could have sworn I’ve visited this site before but after
    looking at many of the posts I realized it’s new to me. Regardless,
    I’m definitely happy I discovered it and I’ll be bookmarking it and checking back regularly!

    • margaretmikkelborg June 2, 2014 at 7:31 pm

      Thank you so much for visiting my blog! I do hope you come back : – ))


  3. ครีมหน้าใส June 6, 2014 at 9:55 am

    bookmarked!!, I love your web site!

  4. rp gratuit June 24, 2014 at 5:35 am

    Hey! This is my first visit to your blog! We are a
    team of volunteers and starting a new project in a community in the same niche.
    Your blog provided us useful information to work
    on. You have done a outstanding job!

    • margaretmikkelborg June 24, 2014 at 6:51 am

      Thank you! What is the project you are working on?

  5. nike snapbacks June 25, 2014 at 7:38 am

    Hello! I’m at work surfing around your blog from my new iphone!
    Just wanted to say I love reading through your blog and look forward to all your posts!
    Keep up the great work!

  6. Truth About Cellulite July 5, 2014 at 1:44 pm

    I’ve been browsing online greater than 3 hours as of late,
    but I by no means discovered any fascinating article like yours.

    It is lovely price enough for me. Personally, if all site owners and bloggers
    made good content material as you probably did, the net will likely be
    a lot more helpful than ever before.

  7. jazz-standards.com July 18, 2014 at 5:29 am

    Thanks for your personal marvelous posting! I quite enjoyed
    reading it, you happen to be a great author. I will make certain to bookmark
    your blog and will come back later on. I want to encourage
    you to continue your great work, have a nice holiday

  8. buffalo wireles router November 8, 2014 at 4:11 pm

    Good information. Lucky me I recently found your website by accident (stumbleupon).
    I’ve book-marked it for later!

  9. belkin wireless router November 8, 2014 at 4:32 pm

    Excellent article! We are linking to this great content on our site.
    Keep up the great writing.

Comments are closed.